Like children, having pets brings a lot of joy to a household. Unfortunately, I also like to introduce your kids, pets new elements of stress. And when pet related conflicts escalate, it wreaks havoc on a relationship.
One scenario is that a couple enters into a relationship (like many people), the “existing” pets. If you meet someone you want to be, it is good if you love your pet (s), but this is not always the case. Let’s say Sarah, whose beloved cat she had since childhood, he meets Joe, who also received a dog for a couple of years ago, after finding that the area affected by roaming, flea by non-owners can be found.
visit each other’s homes, they notice things are a little different pets that seem a bit annoying. Sarah elderly incontinent cat and do not always make it to the litter box. Meanwhile, Joe’s dog keeps chewing Sarah shoes when you visit.
The intense early on in the relationship, these may seem like small things. Although not a cat person anyway, Joe thinks that engaging, that Sarah was so attached to her childhood kitty. Sarah’s name, that he never liked to start with the shoes, so maybe the dog had him a favor.
You can see where this is headed. When Sarah and Joe will enter a serious relationship or even marriage, their pets will come with the package. And Sarah loses fourth pair of shoes dog Joe and Joe see the cat had missed the litter box for the umpteenth time … well, it’s not quite as endearing or funny anymore. And like any tension in the relationship, you’re going to have to find a way to deal with each other’s concerns regarding honesty and compromise.
Even when a couple makes a joint decision to adopt a new pet problems may arise if how they are different expectations cool the caretaking tasks, deal with problematic behavior, or how much money is spent on animal care .
a common pet contests couples report includes:
- You have to walk the dog, empty the cat litter, etc.
- Regardless of whether you need to make your bed / sofa
- What to do with the pet when you travel
- What to do if a pet is ruining the furniture and other objects of
- Jealousy, how much time / interest is paid by the pet partners
allows the animals
I can not stress enough the importance of it in time, before you go to look at the cute puppies and kitties to the local animal shelter to talk to each person’s expectations of livestock. These conversations may not be as fun as watching along with the doggie in the window, but establishing some ground rules, preparing for a potentially difficult scenarios will pay off tenfold down the road.
other issues such as jealousy over the animal, is more serious. Say Emily and Jack is a golden retriever they both love, but Emily begins to feel that Jack does not pay attention to Fido almost more than he did. Coming home from work and spends the first five minutes roughhousing at home instead of Fido greeting with a kiss and asks about her day. Let Fido horn between them on the couch when watching movies.
When Emily expresses her feelings about it, and Jack open to hear them, you can resolve the situation quite easily. (After all, there is plenty of room for Fido to sit on the couch without coming between them literally.) But if your communication skills are poor or in connection with other unresolved conflicts, Fido can have only one proxy to avoid dealing with deeper issues. Jack’s attention focused on the Fido to avoid talking to Emily, because he always seems to criticize him for something? Emily vague feeling of connection and threatens everything that takes away the attention of Jack?
If you think that your pet have a problem getting true relationship problems for any reason, either, because there may be other issues at play, or a lack of healthy dispute resolution skills when ownership and other household things pet talking to a professional couples counselor can really help.